S1:E1 | Destiny Vs Depression!
Mental Health is a crucial topic, in many cases- even a life and death conversation. Mental Health challenges are at epidemic levels. Many people, even young high school and college students, are suffering. Mental Health problems are not easy to discuss and often go unnoticed by those closest to those suffering.
If this is you, if you are struggling with mental health challenges, this podcast is for you. This podcast is a safe place where you can be vulnerable. Here you can feel your feelings. Here is a place you can find a caring, supportive community that understands you. Here is a place you can call home.
Destiny Malibu, a world-renowned singer, songwriter and champion for mental health understands your struggle. It’s her struggle, too. Many of her friends and family are also dealing with mental health challenges. When Destiny Malibu talks about mental health issues, she speaks from experience. She offers hope for better days. Destiny helps her listeners find joy even in the little things, like petting your dog or smiling at strangers.
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Destiny Vs Depression!
If you’ve ever struggled with loneliness, anxiety, or depression, then this show is for you. In this show, Destiny Malibu will help you move from self-hate to self-love, confidence, and happiness. I’ve watched Destiny talk to and help thousands of students. I know she can help you. I know because I’m her mom. Here are your show hosts, my daughters Destiny Malibu and DJ Dezzee.
What’s going on everybody? It’s Destiny Malibu and my co-host DJ Dezzee. We are so excited because this is our first-ever episode. The main topic that we are going to be discussing on this show is mental health. Dezzee and I have had different experiences on our mental health journeys. A lot of people don’t know this, but I suffered pretty severely from depression at a certain point in my life.
I remember about four years ago sitting in my car and being completely broken inside, lost, and numb. I remember at the time saying, “I didn’t even remember what it felt like to be happy.” I wanted my life to be over. I was having a lot of suicidal thoughts. I was googling how to end my life, and pretty much all of this I kept to myself.
My family knew that I struggled with depression, but they didn’t know that I was having suicidal thoughts. Thank God, now I have no suicidal tendencies. It doesn’t mean I’m immune to having a bad day or a bad week or something like that. That is something that I want to share with you guys and what has helped me because there is a big difference between being sad and being suicidal. If there’s anything that I could emphasize, stress, and try to be there for you, it’s how to help you get out of that suicidal space.
If you or someone you know is struggling with that, it’s so important to check in on people and check in on your friends because I’ve always been known for being a very happy bubbly person. Most of the time I am. Pretty much my whole life, I’ve always been a very bubbly happy person, but four years ago, during that year and a little bit of the year before, I was broken and nobody knew that.
I noticed a little and I tried to be there for you as much as I could as your big sister. I’m so happy you’re not in that place anymore.
It’s important to emphasize that mental health struggles don’t always look the same. A lot of times people think, “You can recognize when someone is suicidal because they’ll be moping around and seem like there’s a cloud over their head or something,” but that’s not always the case. More often than not, a lot of people hide their emotions because they’re afraid of being a burden. The dangerous part about that is that the number one tool of prevention is talking to somebody.Mental health struggles don't always look the same. Click To Tweet
Sometimes it’s simply having one conversation with someone if you see someone and you notice that they are maybe crying. That’s happened to me a lot. I’ve been out and I see someone crying. I’m like, “Are you okay?” You never know when having one conversation with somebody can be the difference between that person taking their life and not. In addition to that, it’s so important to check on your friends, even if they don’t seem sad. In my experience, I was suffering from suicidal depression and no one knew that. Thank God, I have my sister, my parents, and my family, but not everybody has that. Dezzee and I want to be your family.
We want you to be a part of our family. I’m so thankful that you’re not in that place anymore. We hope that you all can learn from our journeys. I’ve never personally dealt with depression, but I have had my own moments of loneliness or trying to figure out what I wanted to do with my life. Sometimes it can be super confusing. You almost feel lost, but I was never depressed. I’m happy that I was able to figure some things out. I’m still figuring things out as we all are.
Probably the most scary thing for me is being alone. I don’t like to be alone. I always like to go out, do things, and try to keep myself busy. Thankfully, I have my sister and my family. My favorite place to go back to when I lived in California was Borderline, which is a country line dance bar and grill. I would dance myself to happiness. That is what I love to do. What I always like to do in my free time is dance. Unfortunately, we had a very tragic event happen at our Borderline bar. There was a mass shooting, where I was at. It was extremely terrifying and tragic.
I don’t like to talk about it too much, but it was a traumatic experience for me and my family. We lost too many people that night, and may they all rest in peace. I send my love out to all my Borderline friends and all the families who lost loved ones. You’re in my prayers and my thoughts all the time. Shortly right after that, another traumatic experience happened the day after for our family when our house burned down in a loose fire.
Thankfully, our whole family got out, our dogs got out, and we were able to survive that tragic event as well. All of that comes with its own ramifications, where you get triggered by something or you don’t like talking about it. You never know how you’re going to feel. We want to share with you what we have learned, how we have come to jump over those hurdles, how to get over them, and how to continue to move forward.
In this life, none of us are immune to experiencing pain. Dezzee and I want to be there with you on your journey. We want to know what you are going through. You can send questions to AskDestinyMalibu.com. Anything that you want to hear our opinion on, what we think about something, or if we’ve experienced something similar, let us know.
Our goal with this show and sharing our vulnerable, raw, and authentic experiences is to hopefully, in one of those moments, resonate with some of you where maybe you’re going through something similar. When I hear somebody else talking about something they’re struggling with, and it’s something that I have also struggled with, I’m like, “I’m not alone. I’m not crazy.” Other people go through this too. We want to be your support system and your family. Next episode, we are so excited because we’re going to be talking about the seven pillars of mental health.
This is something that Destiny put together all on her own.
I’m excited about this because when I say that I want to share with you what helped me get out of the pit of suicidal depression are these seven pillars. As I was journaling throughout the years at this stage in my life, I recognized that this is what helped me get to where I am now. I want to share that with you because I don’t want anyone to feel like they don’t have the tools and do not know what to do because it took me a long time to figure out how to get to the mental piece that I have now. We want to share that with you. We want to be your family. We love you, and we can’t wait to be your best friends every single week.
We hope you join us next time.
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